Dating with Aspergers Syndrome

Dear Single Gals,

I have msn, facebook and yahoo. I have been on a few dating websites and I have received nothing and I do have aspergers syndrome and I think that may be why I have been single for that long what do you sexy girls think?

Andrew, England

Dear Andrew,

First, I have to say that it doesn't matter whether you have a disorder or not...I've been single for 5.5 years and Single Gal has been single for 3 but we're still optimistic! I mean look at Heather Mills...one leg and she married a Beatle!! (I had to use that example cause you’re from the UK). Remember that no matter what, there is always something that appeals to another, so you can't discredit yourself.

Second, I don’t know much about Aspergers syndrome or Austism, but have you ever considered dating anyone with the same disorder as you? I would think that it would definitely be less threatening knowing that other person is in the same boat.

I searched the web and there seems to be some social networking sites out there for people with similar disorders (and the girls are cute too!) – one I found was http://www.weareautism.org/. If you just type in Autism and dating…many things come up. There are also many charity sites for Autism/Aspergers that require volunteers and hold events, this may be an option to get out there and meet people.

Here are a couple links and books that may be of interest to you:

http://www.nas.org.uk/nas/jsp/polopoly.jsp?d=10

http://ezinearticles.com/?Aspergers-and-Autism-Dating-Sites---Chat-Can-Easily-Get-You-Started-in-Finding-Your-Date&id=1544344

Autistic Guide to Dating - by Emelia Murry Ramey and Jody John Ramey

Aspergers in Love – by Maxine C. Aston


Good luck Andrew!

Single Chick

Merry Christmas Ladies!!!

Still Single...

Dear Single Gals,

I have been single for six years can anyone help?

Andrew

Well Andrew that is a very good question. We'd probably need a little more information on you to answer this question properly, but here are a couple of suggestions anyways:

- Are you putting yourself out there? Or are you sitting in your house thinking the woman of your dreams is going to fall on your lap? Me and Single Gal both know, this will never happen. So for 2010, we have decided to get out of our comfort zone and try some random things like going to a pub to have a drink by ourselves or by playing softball in the Spring (even though we both suck).

- Do you ever get involved in Single events? There are many here in Toronto like sporting events, ski trips, speed dating etc. They must have these in England too. Try Googling “Single events London”…or wherever you are.

- What about online dating? This seems to be the way of the future as most people now are very busy and tend to set their lives up first and then try and fit someone in. The online thing can help with that, especially the EHarmony type websites that really nails down the type of person you are and the type of person you are looking for.

- Do people know you are single? Spread the word and you may get some blind dates out of it.

- Are you aggressive enough? If you see a girl who interests you, do you approach her? Here in Toronto, from our experience, men rarely approach girls and many of us really wish they would. Whether it’s at a pub, grocery store, gym or restaurant, get up the nerve and start a conversation, what’s the worse that could happen?

Take what you like from this and report back with an update, we’d love to hear about it!

Good luck,
Single Chick

George asked me to pass this on

Yes I am on a first name basis with George. He had asked me to post this message for the the Single Gals out there...Thanks George!

Single Gal's New Years Resolution…

Not sure how everyone else feels but we at the Single Gals camp are actually very happy the 2009 is coming to an end. Like every other year there were really great moments, like our trips to Italy & Paris and the not so great; the loss of our dogs Shmoo and Nash.



The other day over Pizza and beers we decided we are going to make 2010 ‘OUR YEAR”, we are going to put this year behind us. 2010 is the year to get out of our comfort zone, to pursue our passions with gusto and to fast track our dating lives (no, not through Lava Life).

So to get out of my comfort zone I have decided I am going to try the following 3 things:

1) Talk to my gym crush, I don’t care what ‘The Rules’ say I’m breaking that one. You can’t seriously tell me that just because I say ‘Hi’ to a guy that he will be turned off of me forever….

2) Try eHarmony for 3 months…even though an acquaintance tried eHarmony and one of her matches asked if she had big boobs and blonde hair…WTF?...(ok I may have rethink this one)

3) Do the opposite of everything I would normally do. I would normally drink beer with my nachos so now I am going to drink Vodka! I think that’s what ‘The Rules’ meant by that rule.

I’ll let you know how it goes, and if I get asked if I have blonde hair and big boobs I’ll just reply…sure if you have fat wallet and a big dick!

Cheers!
Single Gal

Looking for love in all the wrong places...

Recently I have been hit with this crazy feeling of loneliness. I blame my parents for this, I am lucky to have two of the cutest parents anyone can ask for and as a family unit we are all very close. Well my folks have decided to move to the east coast leaving me with this overwhelming feeling of loneliness. My brothers and friends are still here and I not even sure why my parents leaving has hit me so hard, I can still talk to them and they will be visiting us again in 3 months. This strange reaction to their leaving has prompted me to fast track my dating life, how does one do that? According to my friends we have no choice but to try the online thing. I may have said this before but I am really against this whole internet dating age. I find it impersonal and I just feel like a product on the shelf hoping someone will pick me. Also, online dating makes you sit there looking to see if anyone is going to view your profile and if they will make any sort of contact and if they don’t you’re left thinking ‘Hey what’s wrong with me?!” So with all this going against me, I decided in my moment of loneliness to set up a Lava Life account. Well for those of you that have never tried the online thing, setting up the account was rather painless. You just have to fill out some info about yourself, upload a picture if you want and then you are all set to cyber shop for men, sounds good doesn’t it! What they do not tell you on Lava Life is that when you set up a profile, this profile shows up in ‘ALL” profile areas. All profile areas means it is in dating, relationship and INTIMATE!!! Whoa what that hell is Intimate? Unbeknownst to me my profile was in all 3 areas. I am fine with dating and relationship but draw the line at intimate. After I set my account up I got 5 instant messages from interested lava life profiles. I thought wow my pic must look really good, and it got me feeling a little big headed. I decide since I am going to do this online thing I may as well look at the profiles of the men contacting me. The first one’s interests I took a look at included bondage, French kissing and anything goes (WHAT?!) well he was obviously not for me. So on to the next one. His interests include rough sex and role playing (WHAT?!). I am now totally mortified and wondering what is it about my profile that is attracting these men? Do I look like I want to have rough sex while dressed up as Snow White!? After going through 3 other similar profiles I finally saw that they were coming from the intimate section and realized my profile was in there. It took me about an hour to figure this all out and I have now deleted myself from Lava Life!!



Cheers!
Single Gal

The Home Depot Experience

This past weekend my folks came into Toronto. They call me up and ask me to meet them for lunch, so I ask where and my Dad say “at Home Depot of course!” Off I go to meet my parents at Home Depot for my first lesson on ‘How to find a good man in the lumber section”.

After greeting my folks we head into the store, first we walk around the whole place under the guise that my dad is looking for something to buy with his $50 gift certificate. While perusing the endless isles of home improvement supplies my dad spots and man carrying a white bucket, than tells me to chase him because he has a bucket of drywall glue so he is probably a Dry Waller. That was lesson number one; check out what supplies they are buying to determine what trade they may be in. Next my mom pipes in “you have to see who he is with, if he has kids a wife is probably close by, look for the ones that are alone”. As she is saying this see spots a cutie getting help from a sales rep and yells “Look at him now he’s cute!” YES this is what my single life has come to cruising the isle of Home Depot with my folks lookin for love. Next we head off to the lumber section but alas it was empty, than my Dad realized this is the wrong season for Carpenters it’s to cold and told me to check back in the spring.

According to my Dad if you spot a potential dating candidate, you must ask his advice and if he is willing to help you out than you know he is a nice guy. If he gets irritated or ignores you, than you know to not waste your time. Makes sense doesn’t it? So now we narrowed it down to he’s a nice guy, but what do we do next Dad?



Cheers!
Single Gal

Men my brother thinks I should date...

As you may have noticed my Single status is a common topic at the family gatherings. My bother tells me he thinks about who would be a good match for me and has narrowed it down to three men:

1) George Stroumboulopoulos of ‘The Hour” He thinks George is smart, funny and would be great to talk to a family dinners.



2) Mike Rowe of ‘Dirty Jobs’ on the discovery channel, once again my brother thinks he is smart and funny and is a very cool dude because he is willing to do any job no matter how dirty.


3) Keifer Sutherland I think we all know who that is, my brother is convinced that he is my soul mate. How he came to this deduction was from watching a documentary called “I Trust you to Kill me” and Keifer is very much himself, he gets drunk tackles a tree and loses his phone. Hmmm not sure how I feel about him thinking that’s my soul mate, but I admit I like Keifer all the more because of those things.

So there you have it the perfect men for me! However when I mention the top 3 men I think I should date, Leo DeCaprio, Johnny Depp and Jon Bon Jovi he tells me don’t be ridiculous, keep it real!!! UH!?

Cheers!
Single Gal

Dating advice from my dad…

I have always said there is no other man quite like my dad. He is the last of a dying breed. This past Sunday I was having dinner with my family when my Dad decided to give me dating advice, on how to find a man like him. He was telling me that we Single Gals are doing it all wrong. Forget about meeting a good man at the bar, the gym or the grocery store! According to my dad we should be hanging out a Home Depot and Rona.

Okay now ladies before you run off to scour the isles of Home Depot, there is more to it than that. You must hang out in the lumber section (my dad’s favorite section) here you will find the contract workers. However you must become lumber savvy because according to my dad we do not want the guy picking up the pine that is on sale, we want the man in the cedar section. First, because he knows what he is doing and second, because that means he is a high quality contractor and he probably has a lot of work.

Now as we were discussing how to tell what wood is best and if the guy knows what he is doing, I forgot to ask how we are suppose to get the attention of this “High Quality Contractor”. I’m not sure getting all dolled up and hanging around piles of wood will really serve our cause but hell, we could do worse so why stop there?! See you all in the Lumber section!!!!

Cheers!
Single Gal