Love who you are...

I attend Pilates classes and I had the weirdest conversation with the lady beside me. One of the people in the class had just gotten back from vacation and was a nice tanned colour (probably my colour or darker) and our instructor commented on her glow.

The Indian women beside me looked my way (because we are a similar skin tone) and said “I never understood why white people want to get darker when we want to be lighter.” I looked at her and said “I like my skin tone and I’m not trying to get lighter”. Really who does she think I am Michael Jackson? She quickly realized I wasn’t in her “mind set” so she over corrected her comment and said “Yes, really who wants to be a pasty white.” Now I’m not shocked about having this conversation because South Asian people are messed up (yes I’m being politically incorrect but I have issues and justified one’s about Indians) and although I may look Indian I correct people and say I’m South African Indian and really Canadian because that is what I am. My heritage may be something but what I identify with is a whole other thing. Yes I embrace my exotic Aishwarya Rai type look but in the end I am more than a skin colour or my ethnic heritage.

I saw a show on TV about skin lightening products and how they are hot sellers throughout Asia and not only for Indians, but Thai, Phillipino etc…So single ladies if you have someone say something off kilter to you don’t be afraid to comment back because maybe they'll actually learn something (we can only hope).

In the end the most important thing for you to remember is to be true to who you are and above all love yourself, pasty white, tanned or dark and lovely.

Queen B

To hot for words

Oh and here’s another one girls, I’m on a blogging rampage…so I recently rejoined online cause it’s so hilarious, and here’s one of the first messages I get…keep in mind, I’ve blocked all “intimate encounter” type emails:


“baby, i got a big thick co.ck, a muscular body, fine all around im told...I would love to pleasure you, and let you ride me until we both cu.m. also, i take a pill that is a natural version of viagra... it works awesome ;)
if we met in public you'd see me, and could judge then.”


Online is awesome! Should I meet up with him?

Single Chick

50 First Dates – Dates 7 thru 9

Hey girls – sorry, it’s been a while. Christmas break and working like a mad man, and then Valentines Day as a florist will seriously impede upon a girl’s dating life, but I did manage to squeeze a couple doozies in. So let’s get right to it…

Date #7 - probably would have been better if he didn’t have a bigger hard on for Pearl Jam than I did…he was part of the fan club…and went to every concert that ever existed…EVER!! Ok, I would have gone out with him a second time, but he never called. I obviously wasn’t a big enough fan. Bummer, cause I would have loved seeing Eddie from front row.

Date #8 - this is one for the books if I ever did say so. So I was messaging 2 guys through a dating site…one named Matt, one named Aaron. Turns out they’re friends and Aaron ends up texting me on behalf of Matt and makes me believe he’s Matt who’s actually Aaron. I got seriously confused. I set up a date with Aaron (who did say he was Aaron, but I at first thought he was Matt) and just as I’m about to leave my house, he calls to tell me I’m meeting Matt. WTF you ask…yes, both these guys are actually in their 30’s…I felt like I was in the playground. So I go, cause now I’m curious. I meet with Matt and OMG…awesome! I actually couldn’t resist telling him how much material he was giving me. He was completely shy, nerdy, security/IT guy and was so freakin nervous, couldn’t look me in the eye. I calmed him down by telling him this was never going to happen…EVER!! He was super sweet though and I told him he’d absolutely be married before me, probably within the next 6 months. So we get onto casual conversation and I ask him what his favourite band was…his answer “The Barenaked Ladies”. True story…no word of a lie.

Date #9 - so I finally meet my “Trip Fontaine*” except it’s not high school, I’m 32 and he’s 40 (so he’s basically already entering his re-hab years…or should be) and then in week #4 he say’s “could you just shut the fuck up for a second” in front of his friend…and that was the end of that. Oh, and his 80 year old mother gives him 6:30am wake up calls or he wouldn’t get up for work. Seriously…another true story…never an exaggeration here, EVER!!

So girls, if this doesn’t pump you up for dating in 2011, I don’t know what will. Good luck out there dudettes, I’m off to surf and flirt with someone that looks like Eddie Vedder.

Single Chick (how much longer do I have to write that??!!)

*Trip Fontaine was the character played by the fabuloso Josh Hartnett in the even more fabuloso movie The Virgin Suicides.

My Freebie List

Well I have to say that my Freebie Five list changes like the wind but right now these are the men who I would do bad things to should the opportunity ever present itself. Please note that this list is in no particular order as I don’t want anyone to feel like they aren’t as important as the next (just in case they read this…LOL).

1. Jon Hamm – God this Mad Men actor is sex in a suit, he is supposedly charming and fantastic in real life and that just makes him even more appealing to me.



2. David Beckham – The man can hit a soccer ball and model underwear, enough said.




3. Larry Mullen Jr. – Since I was young I have been in love with the Irish drummer of U2.



4. Rob Lowe – Is it just me or is he getting sexier as he gets older? It also helps that I haven’t heard any rumours of him sleeping with any 16 year olds so it’s all good.



5. Colin Firth and Hugh Grant – The accent, the Britishness and with Hugh the dirtiness of being caught with a prostitute somehow is appealing in a warped way. Don't ask...





BTW - I know my list is 6 instead of 5 but I’m single so I’m allowed to break the rules and dream a little. Also it's not like there is anybody right now who would mind me throwing in an extra night of debauchery for the fun of it.

Who are your 5, 6 or 10?

Queen B

Embracing Technology

So I did something out of the norm, I signed up for a personal twitter account and am now tweeting. It may not seem strange given I am a blogger and I have a Facebook account but if you knew me you would know that I'm a pretty private person. My Facebook account has limited friends and I continuously delete comments, pictures etc...(that may just be my obsessive compulsiveness) but all in all these things aren't showing the real me just an online part of me. So why did I sign up and start randomly writing my thoughts for the world to read, well it came about because of a course I'm taking. The course is about new media and marketing and it's really interesting and it got me thinking about my internal fight with technology and how I go back and forth on the merits and pitfalls it presents. What I came to realize is that instead of fighting with it I am going to embrace it because it isn't going anywhere and if anything things are only getting better faster.

Like anything it's a rush at first but I'm sure I will get bored of it like I have with Facebook. But if any of you are interested in reading my random comments about life, feel free to look me up at BeebsinTO.

Queen B

Say no to Valentine's Day!

Today is February 1^st; this means that Valentine’s Day is 13 days away. We are now being bombarded with Valentine’s reminders everywhere you go; even Tim’s Horton’s is promoting their gift card for V-day saying ‘Not every gift needs to be a heart shaped box’. I can’t even grab my morning coffee without having Valentine’s Day being shoved down my throat!  

Do not assume that I hate Valentine’s Day because I am single. I have always hated it! This hate goes back to elementary school, when we were forced had to handout V-Day cards to our classmates. At the age of 8 there was the stress of making sure that you didn’t give Timmy the nose picker a card that might make him think you like him. Then if Timmy the nose picker gave you a “I Choo – Choo Choose you” card; you had to endure the taunting from your class mates that Timmy loves you and this continues on for the rest to the school year. I also hate nose pickers, is this all because of Timmy? Thanks a lot you little nose picking bastard. Actually nose picking is gross and we should hate nose pickers.

Okay you survived the Valentine’s Day ridiculousness of elementary school, now it’s high school, where you can send secret chocolate heart lollipops to your friends or that crush. This was the time for the popular girls to shine, oh how they flaunted the 20 or so chocolate heart lollipops around, saying they were all from the cutest, coolest boys in the school. We all knew they sent them to each other and probably sent them to themselves because the cool boys had better things to do than send out chocolate lollipops, HELLO that’s what makes them cool! Those same girls made sure to go out of their way to see how many lollipops you got so they can rub it in that you only got two. One from your bestest bud and the other from Sam the crotch scratcher who professed his love every chance he got. The sad thing is Sam was actually a cutie but the ball scratching ruined him, and just made him a joke. I really hope he got that issued sorted out before college. 

Now you have ‘The Relationship’ and Valentine’s Day is the day to express your love to your partner. I have a big issue with this, because if you love someone should you not be expressing that love every day? I truly believe V-day is for those that have nothing else to offer, it is for that jackass that thinks if he goes balls out on Valentine’s Day he can continue to be a jackass. It is for those girls dating that jackass to say to their friends how wonderful he is because he left a trail of rose petals to her car door with an invitation to dinner. They shove sappy commercials and ads at us, making the masses think that if you do not get some great over the top gesture on V-day you are not loved enough. It makes single people feel lonely and sad because they think they are missing out. Girls if you are single, think of it as we are just passing time until we meet the great guy who expresses his love everyday in his actions and does need V-day to do some outrageous gesture because you know you are loved.

It has come to my attention that March 14, is ‘Steak and Sex Day’ the man’s Valentine’s Day. Now that’s what I am talking about! Why do men get all the cool stuff? A friend of mine and her hubby celebrate March 14 and have learned over the years that the sex should be had before the steak dinner because after big steak dinner they found that they were to full and bloated for sex games. I can’t wait for the time when I get to participate in ‘Steak and Sex Day’! Giddy Up!

Ladies whether you’re single or taken please do not put too much stock in Valentine’s Day. For you taken ladies don’t be upset if your man isn’t over the top, chances are he does great things all the time. For you single gals, there is no reason to let V-day get you down, remember it is just an over inflated holiday that has no purpose but to make corporate America richer (According to the Greeting Card Association, an estimated one billion valentine cards are sent each year, making Valentine's Day the second largest card-sending holiday of the year). 

Let’s use Valentine’s Day to buy a new pair of boots or that sexy over priced top you’ve been eyeing for the last month. Treat yourself because you love yourself and are worth it!

How do you feel about Valentine’s Day, do you love or hate it?

Cheers!