Fear

I do not have a poker face, maybe Gaga does but I definitely do not. I try to keep neutral for the most part because I remember Eckhart Tolle stating that our ego is in play when we get emotional high’s and low’s and we should try to control it so that it doesn’t control us. Well I must have some sort of ego because I was seriously getting worried about my employability. If you read the blog you know I have been randomly looking for a new job and after the initial burst of potential opportunities things went dry, not Sahara dry but very close to it. I was beginning to think something was wrong with me and was starting to seriously doubt my skills.

Things would pop into my head and make me question my worth as a human. Things like maybe I think too highly of myself or maybe I was fooling myself into thinking I could do more or maybe this is all there is for me? What was going on, why was my ‘ego’ telling me I was an unworthy human just because nobody was calling me in for a job interview? I know it sounds a bit crazy but really I was doing a number on myself and not in a good way.

I think all these thoughts played into my head because I was thinking that if I can’t find a man the least I should be able to do is find a job. The fact that neither situation was changing was making me feel sorry for myself. This is no way to be and coming from someone like me who usually thinks I can take on the world it was an awful experience.

I think it’s hard to admit your fears no matter what they are. Personally I like writing things down, not normally in a blog for all to read, but if it’s written down I feel I can fight it with logic rather than with ‘ego’. The good thing is that things are happening on the job front and although the man situation is still on life support the breathing has become a hell of a lot easier now that my head is out of the way.

Queen B

If you can dream it, you have it...

I am now reading ‘The Power’ by Ronda Byrne the author of ‘The Secret’. I am a firm believer that you get what you put out into the universe. Attitude is everything! The more positive you are the more good things will come your way.  ‘The Power’ states that if you want something you should act like you have it already. If you want a relationship than you need to act like you are in one. If you hog the bed than you should try to sleep on your side to make room for that future mate. Have a space in your closet ready, put an extra plate out at dinner time (okay I admit that suggestion is bordering on Crazy Cat Lady) However I think there is a valid point to this, for me acting like I am in a relationship would mean I need to go out and buy some nice gitch. Gone are the days of the matching bra and panties. Everything is about comfort these days and well if you want to attract someone you need to do whatever it is that makes you feel sexy and confident. 

Gals, you need to be aware if you’re falling into the comfort trap. Things to look out for are:

1)      You have stopped wearing you favourite heels,

2)      You wash and go, rather than fixing your hair, putting on some lip gloss on before you go

3)      NONE of your bra’s and panties match!!!!!!

4)      You only shave your legs, when absolutely necessary

5)      You have a track suit for everyday of the week

6)      You still have nail polish on your toes from last year’s pedicure

7)      You didn’t bother with a pedicure and you walk around with your gnarly toes hanging out for all to see.

8)      You would rather stay home and watch reality TV because it’s too much work to get ready to go out

To avoid the comfort trap we should always try to leave the house looking our best, NOT for anyone else but for YOU. Think about how you feel when you know you look good, you walk with more confidence, there is strut in your stride. The world is your oyster and you know it! When you feel good, you naturally feel happier, when you are happier people are drawn to you, and the more people you meet the closer you get to the man of your dreams.  Be happy for those that have good relationships, smile when you see couples together, tell the universe that you love seeing people in love and love will come.

Try changing your attitude to one of love and happiness and see what it brings. Remember good thoughts bring good things. Good Luck gals, I know there is someone out there waiting for each of us.

Gabby's Story..

This year is my tenth anniversary and my husband and I wanted to do something special.  We each decided to get a tattoo that represented this milestone as well as incorporating our own meanings.  I decided to get 10 daisies, representing each year we've been married, as well as being my favourite flower and signifying that like the daisy, I too am resilient, wild and cheerful and I wanted a little bit of flow and lightness added in there and that I left up to my artist, Leah Miller (http://www.leahmillertattoos.com/).  My two other Japanese tattoos she also incorporated into this masterpiece and I think the piece as a whole is incredible.  Not only did she exceed my expectations, but she also put her artistry of what I had in my mind into a work of art that will forever be with me.  I truly am so happy with my tattoo and what it means to me. 

Sophie's Tattoo..

The tattoo is actually my first name, in Japanese letters (or Chinese? I can never remember!)... I figured if there's anything that will always mean something to me, that was it!! I'm thinking of getting another tattoo of doggie paws, possibly on my shoulder-blade, just because I love dogs, but I still haven't decided for sure to go through with it.

Jade and Bri's Story...

It's all of my family's astrology signs. My dad is Aries, which are the horns in the front, my sister is Aquarius which is the wave in the middle. My mom is Gemini which is the Roman numeral two in the background and I am cancer the 69 symbol at the bottom.

I have also included my boyfriend Bri's tattoo which is on his arm because it's kind of a cute story. He got that tattoo from a statue he saw when he was on a trip with me and my two girlfriends in Amsterdam (the best trip of our lives!). His whole arm is dedicated to the trip and on the inside of his arm you can see he got each of our initials Jade-Stacie-Rachel.

The tattoo artist that did Jades tattoo was Jay from Sinful Inflictions in Whitby and Bri's was done by Lisa also from Sinful Inflictions.

Nat's Story...

These two dogs are very special to me; they both came into my life when I needed them most. I had adopted Yoda my pug when he was 8 years old, his owner could no longer care for him she loved him but circumstances in her life had lead to her having to give him up. It was love at first site for me, and little did I know he would be my saving grace to help me get over a very long term relationship. He was there every night when I cried. He didn’t judge, he just loved me unconditionally. We had 2.5 years together before he passed away. He had a stroke on our way up north one summer. I had taken him to the vets, they convinced me he would pull through so I left him over night to go to our camp site. They called me the next morning telling me he would not make it, I rushed to get there but he died before I arrived. I was devastated because all I wanted to do was be there for his final moment, like he had been there for me.  I still carry guilt for ever leaving him behind, it comes and goes and I may never truly forgive myself but I have learned to deal with it. He is one scar on my heart that may never completely heal.

Then came Shmoo  my beautiful boxer they say we have soul mates well Shmoo was my soul dog,  the moment I held him in my arms I knew he was mine. We had 4.5 years together, we had gone through so much (that is a whole other story in itself) . When I got him as a puppy I was living in my parent’s basement, so he was in an environment where there was always someone around. Then when he was 4, I moved to an apartment in a very nice dog friendly neighbourhood. I thought this was going to be a great move for the two of us, I was so excited. My own space a beautiful dog park for Shmoo, can life gets any better?  Shmoo hated it, he would bark all day and cry, I got complaints from the landlord and was even threatened that I would get evicted. I put him in doggie daycare during the day but I was slowly going broke, I also brought him to a trainer to help with this, I tried everything I could think of.

Then one day I realized either I move back home or I have to find Shmoo a new home where he will be surrounded by people.  I cannot express how hard it was to come to that conclusion. I did find him a home with a family friend, with kids and where someone was home all day. He was happy there but not long after being in their care he died, no fault of anyone’s but when I heard the news I was devastated once again I let another animal down. I was on my way to a major depression when I started the Single Gals web site it was the only thing that could keep my mind off of Shmoo. That stopped me from playing the cruel game of “What if I did this, or tried that” I still cannot talk about Shmoo without tears and some days I am convinced that I may never be able to. I have however stopped trying to figure out why I had to go through this when I had gone through so much to get to a happy place. Slowly I think he had to leave me so I can pursue the path I am on now and one day I hope to build a place for dogs in his honour.  My tattoo is my way of having my furry loved ones back where they belong..........with me.

The artist was Rob from Sinful Inflictions  (905) 430-9840     

http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=2251156357

Toni's Story...

I wanted to do a memorial portrait for the loss of my Grandmother, Grandfather, Uncle and my cat Vega. I decided to get these Mexican sugar skulls, each representing a person and a pet

Sugar skulls are used in Mexico, where on the Day of the Dead (November 1st and 2nd ) they bring flowers and sugar skulls to the cemetery to decorate the tombs. This holiday focuses on gatherings of family and friends to pray and remember friends and family members who have died. The Day of the Dead is a time of celebration, and partying is common.

Got it at Tat-a-rama by Eugene

http://www.tat-a-rama.com/

Lisa's Story...

Hey Ladies this tattoo was submitted by Lisa in the UK. Once again some beautiful work has been done. Thank you Lisa for sharing your story.

Lisa's Story..

I lost my mum suddenly in March 2007 and had this tattoo done in early April, mum loved angels and the colour pink!  It's based on The Angel of August by Michael Parkes.  If you look closely at the pink clouds, the tattooist also inked the word mum into the cloud contours.

 

Of my three tattoos that I have it is my favourite! It was inked by Kouri of Holey Skin in Bristol, England. UK

Michele's Story ...

Hey Ladies,  this week I would like to share the various stories I received for some of the amazing tattoos that our Single Gal followers have. This is Michele's story and I want to thank her for sharing it with us. Your Rock Babe! Cheers Hopeful in TO

 

 

This tattoo was a cover up that was several years in the making.

I'll explain the finished product in detail for you so you understand it a little better.

 

 

This tattoo is all about my healing process thru depression. There are 3 flowers to represent my 3 children,  the two in bloom are to represent Alex & Curtis (my two sons) and the bud not open presents the fetus that I lost. All of which had an impact on my depression in one way or another. The words "Strength" "Courage" and "Happiness" are the phases of healing the illness.

 

Strength to admit that to overcome depression you must take the first step.

 

Courage to actually take that first step towards healing.

 

Happiness is the final product and the whole thing is shaped as a heart.

 

This was a very emotional day for me and as much pain it was to get....it was more than worth it in my opinion.I actually cried when I first saw it completed and on my skin forever. It's a part of me now and much more beautiful and meaningful than that black blob that was there before.

 

The artist was Jason from The Riedel Needle shop in Orangeville.

13 First Street, Orangeville, Ontario

519-938-5157 begin_of_the_skype_highlighting              519-938-5157      end_of_the_skype_highlighting

www.tattoojohnny.com

He also has a Facebook page and also a Myspace page.

 

 

Win tickets to Love, Lose and What I Wore

Hey Ladies,

The hit off-Broadway show, Love, Loss and What I Wore is now playing in Toronto  and all you Twitter Savvy Single Gals are being given another chance to win a pair of tickets! I have seen this show and it is awesome, not only can we all relate to the stories, but you will laugh and maybe even shed a little tear.

If you have a twitter account all you need to do is:

1) You will need a twitter account www.twitter.com

2) You must be a follower of  Single Gals @singlegals 

3) You will need to  Retweet the following message:

RT and Follow @LoveLossCanada to win tickets to http://lovelossonstage.ca in Toronto! Time to dress up! #LLaWiWCSG

4) Make sure you are a follower of @LoveLossCanada it's the final step for your chance to win!

Winner will be chosen in 7 days!

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Winner will be chosen at random from all qualify entries.
Tickets will be held at Will Call for the winners. Prize includes 2 tickets to the show on any Friday, Saturday or Wednesday matinee. Prize has no cash value. Prize does not include transportation to the Panasonic Theatre in Toronto. The winner must answer a skill testing question correctly. Winners must be over the age of consent as per province or have parental/guardian consent.

The Double Life...

I have just returned from a 3 day weekend getaway with 3 of the greatest dudes a girl could ever know. I say dudes because I realized this weekend that my friends and I are men trapped in women’s bodies. There was nothing girlie about us, it was a weekend of drinking, belching, and farting. If you were to look in our fridge you would have found beer and kobasa sausage, see dudes. Oh girls word of advice never eat kobasa sausage when drinking beer, because you will be burping that shit up all night and I wonder why I’m single.

I met a drama teacher on Friday night and we got along famously. I kept asking him “how do I know if this is the real him or if he is acting?”, but I realized we are all actors when we go away. It’s like we live double lives. I had to go all the way up north to talk to someone from my own back yard. If we were at a bar in Toronto we wouldn’t have talked to each other. Everyone is so uptight in the city but take them out of it and well…anything can happen.

Once you are officially on vacation the new you kicks in. For me I am able to live in the moment and nothing else matters. I’m not worried about work, or the things on my “to do list”, I’m not concerned that I still have not figured out what path I will take once school is done, everything just disappears. Life is so good when you live in the moment and just go with whatever comes your way. I only wish I could do this in my day to day life; but as soon as I pulled into my parking spot last night it hits, the work stress, the things on my “To do list” and the loneliness. I just spent 4 days with 3 amazing friends, we laughed so hard we cried many times throughout the weekend, it was so much fun that walking into my apartment just seemed so empty. That feeling has passed and life is back to normal, work, gym and school but now I have some memories that will last me a life time thanks to my wonderful girlies and to “Mr. Drama” with the Mother Love Bone CD for making this Single Gal very happy that she was single ;)

Girls take a break from life go away with some of your closest gal pals and live in the moment, life is way too short.

Cheers!